RELAX (Woosha) RELEASE ~

Some of you may see this word and instantly think....what the hell is she talking about. Well as some of you may already know, either from being within my circle or reading one of my previous blogs that I suffer from Fibromyalgia disorder. And during the past two years RELAXING has not been in my vocabulary nor apart of my day-to-day life. To give you an example; imagine walking around feeling as if  you were being bear hugged by five bears, and your shoulders looked as if you were saying (I don't know) all day 24/7!! With that being said, I have not only had to learn how to relax all over again, but it forced me to put things into perspective and learn how to appreciate the little things that we all are guilty of taking for granted. Now I'm not saying that if you don't relax that you'll end up being like me....but what I am saying is that, we need to take more time out for ourselves...have some ME time incorporated into our oh so busy schedules.

While this disorder has placed a road block in my life...I will not be defeated nor minimized by it. I believe that everything happens for a reason....and anyone who knows me knows that I was a train wreak waiting to happen. I have always lived a very fast paced lifestyle, and now I'm being forced to slow down and...RELAX! By doing so I finally have the chance to get to know me ME a little better, and I must say that I simply LOVE it! Now don't get me wrong...there are a lot of things that I'll never get to do again that once was a very huge part of my existence..and yes, it pisses me off to no end. But getting upset and crying about it means I loose, and that's simply not an option...All I'm saying is that there are things, people, and situations in life are are simply beyond our control. But what we do have complete control over is our reactions, and emotions. I tell my children to "Never Let'em Bring You Out Of Your Hook-Up". And the first step to accomplishing this is learning how to RELAX.....  
 

Do You Know Your Worth....

I have been out on my own since I was 16 years old and I must say it has had its pros' and cons'. Not only was I a teenage mother but by the age of 17 I had two children. And throughout my life I had to set goals and expectations for myself that only I could achieve. Yes, at times those goals were pushed back and set aside, but the main point is that you remember them and keep your eyes on the prize. Today I look at my life as something you would see on TV (but without the fame), my house hold is very fast paced but at the same time everyone is self sufficient and focused. I can't help but look back to how exactly we got here and more importantly how do we maintain it, then it hits me....every year I grow in some sort of way. I might change my hair color, make it longer...YES I said make it longer (LOL), get a new car, or even lose weight and in some cases even friends. My point being that I believe that if a person cannot elevate themselves into something greater each year...then they are doing themselves a disservice!

When I say "Do you know your worth" I mean do you know how valuable you are to yourself NOT the one's around you...ya see in order for YOU to be the best YOU...YOU must put YOU first!! It took me a long time to realize that, and when I did...it put everything into perspective. I'm not saying put others needs aside or be selfish, but what I am saying is, in order for YOU to know how much YOU mean to others...YOU first must know how much YOU mean to yourself. More times than none do we place others needs above our own, whether its our children, significant other, family or friends...and in some cases even the people at work, were ALL guilty of doing it. Again....I'm not saying DO NOT care about others feelings or concerns, I'm just saying YOU also need to take into consideration the things YOU do and what you bring to the table. For instance; you have those where one person may go out and make the money...but the other half makes sure that the kids are clean, homework is done, and a hot meal on the table, then there is whats known as the SHARED roles, and we all know what that is. Or you may have the person who plays both roles and does it ALL...in any case in order for any success to be made everyone must play their position and ultimately...."Know Your Worth". Although I have worn many shoes in my lifetime, I think I've found the perfect fit...so again I ask....Do you know yours?? Because I know mine...and knowing is half the battle!

P.S....Count how many times I used the word "YOU"....are things more clearer now? Don't worry...YOU can thank me later ;-)

Tomi Jones... Please Don't Go